Ok a couple of years ago I told a friend that I had come up with a theory of breaking…three types of breaking…
1) negative breaking… That is someone sets out to destroy you, to abuse you, to crucify you.
2) positive breaking… Someone breaks your walls down and opens you up, so you can feel again, so you can melt and dissolve and truly touch another person inside
3) borderline breaking… This is the razor’s edge between positive and negative, which is a dangerous but magical domain. This combines elements of both positive and negative, and it can be unclear whether this is “bad” or “good.” One can have very mixed feelings and this is the edge, the place where you are taken to a level you may be afraid of yet long for, or where you may hate someone for doing to you yet it may be the best thing anyone ever did to you, in one sense.